Grey’s Anatomy
Derek Shepherd was a beloved quality onGrey ’s Anatomy , and fans were left heartbroken after his untimely last . Throughout his time on the show , he proved to be a bright surgeon , a loving husband to Meredith , and a bully Father-God to his children .
Yet , with all the unspoilt aspects of Derek ’s personality , there are many things he did that are confutative when await at in retrospect , particularly when it come in to his relationship with Meredith . Derek often acted selfishly and could be quite conceited at time , leading to many case that would n’t hold up today .
Treating Meredith Unfairly At Work
After the iconic rejoinder of Addison at the goal of season 1 , Derek ’s kinship with Meredith became fractured as Derek had to choose between the two women . Ultimately , Derek chose to try and save his marriage , leaving Meredith heartbroken . However , Derek became jealous of Meredith ’s lovemaking life and get down to resent her , especially in the workplace .
This resulted in him regale her gratingly , singling her out , and jest at her for mistakes in front of the other interns . One of the main instances of this occur in the instalment " Much Too Much , " when someone that Meredith had slept with turn up at the hospital and command aesculapian help from none other than Derek himself . Derek , distinctly jealous , made unfitting jokes at Meredith ’s disbursal that would n’t fly today .
Blaming Owen For The Plane Crash
The plane crash at the end of season 8 was one of thesaddest instalment inGrey ’s Anatomyhistory , and the aftermath was just as heartbreaking . Season 9 was a dark clock time for the doctors at Grey Sloan , and Derek had a peculiarly hard time dealing with griefandthe accidental injury to his paw he keep up in the accident .
However , whilst the other Dr. want to move on from the crash , Derek was insistent in finding the person to blame for the trial by ordeal , which ended up being Owen . Owen change the plane companies due to budget cut in the infirmary ’s monetary resource , and Derek hold a lot of resentment towards him . " The End Is The rootage Is The remnant , " showcased Derek ’s uncongenial treatment of Owen , and whilst some of it may have been justified , in retrospect it was mostly just unjust .
Not Telling Meredith That He Was Married
Meredith and Derek were the ' it ' couple of season 1 , and it seemed like nothing could intervene with their bud romance . And then , Addison Montgomery showed up in " Who ’s Zoomin ' Who ? " promptly stop Meredith and Derek ’s human relationship when she divulged the fact that she was his wife .
Whilst Derek ’s leakage to Seattle to get aside from Addison after she chisel on him made horse sense , keep back Meredith in the dark the whole clip they were together did not . In hindsight , it would have just been prosperous for Derek to be honest with Meredith from the offset - even if he was anguish from the betrayal , he should n’t have started a relationship with Meredith without telling her the whole truth as he sleep with it would finally come out anyway .
Being Hypocritical Towards Addison
Derek was understandably break - hearted after learning about Addison ’s matter with Mark but eventually decided to give his union another shot . However , when they got back together in season 2 , he did everything in his powerfulness to remind her of her betrayal .
Yet , in season 1 he had begun a relationship with Meredith and still harbored tactual sensation for her throughout season 2 , even sleeping with her in " turn a loss My Religion . " Derek constantly begrudged Addison and insulted her because of her action , yet send similar sins . On reflexion , perhaps Addison was n’t the villain she was made out to be upon her introduction , as she and Derek were ultimately just as bad as each other .
Pushing Meredith Away
However , the well - meant plan go lopsided when Meredith confronted Derek , only for Derek to unceremoniously clobber the engagement annulus into the woods . Considering all that Meredith and Derek had gone through , it seemed incorrect for him to push her away when she was the closest person to him . Whilst it was true that he was hurting , looking back his actions were hurtful to Meredith and completely unneeded .
Underestimating Amelia
Amelia and Derek ’s relationship was notoriously up and down , as Derek often flip from support his babe ’s endeavors to undermining her completely . Upon Amelia ’s innovation toGrey ’s Anatomy , Derek constantly put her down and chose to focus on her action from the yesteryear , rather than the soul she had grown to be .
One of the independent illustration of this take place in the instalment " Could We Start Again , Please ? " when Amelia ’s history as a drug addict was exposed to the infirmary , and Derek miscarry to stand up for his baby . rather , he went behind her back to talk to Owen about the situation , nearly getting Amelia fired in the cognitive process . Derek always importune that he was a family man , and therefore should have respected and cared for his sister more .
Comparing Meredith To Her Mother
Derek certainly metamorphose over the years , but by season 11 , it seemed he had n’t lost his egotistical and selfish stripe . Meredith and Derek ’s family relationship was in a fractured state throughout this time of year after Derek begrudgingly gave up moving to DC to fulfill the hope he made to Meredith of prioritize her work .
In the installment " Only Mama Knows , " Derek cruelly severalise Meredith : " You sound just like your female parent . " view Meredith ’s human relationship with her Mom was never great due to how Ellis neglected her in favor of piece of work , Derek ’s words were a punk ploy to guilt Meredith for putting herself first . These days , it is not unfathomable for someone to have a promising careerandbe a good parent , and Derek ’s book of facts to Ellis ’s insensate ways was an unfair , and frankly outdated , insult .
Acting Unprofessional At Work
Whilst Derek was widely considered to be one of the best surgeons at Grey Sloan , there were times that he acted unprofessionally . One of the most renowned instance was Derek ’s preference for dating his colleagues - not only did he have a family relationship with an interne ( Meredith ) , he also go steady Rose , one of his scouring nurses .
When his and Rose ’s relationship end , he made her feel uncomfortable in the workplace , going as far as to hollo at her when she accidentally edit out him with a scalpel . Derek should have been more professional in his job , specially take the mellow - stakes nature of the work . And , when having romanticist family relationship with his fellow worker , he should have been able to draw the production line between his body of work and his love life .
Cheating On Meredith
Derek and Meredith ’s relationship was in a vital state after Derek bequeath for DC , and the cracks really start to show in " With Or Without You . " The episode admit flashbacks to Derek ’s time in DC , where he gradually got closer and nearer to one of his enquiry fellows , finally kissing her .
Whilst Derek expressed his guilt for cheating on Meredith , there was no literal fallout from it , and with the add benefit of hindsight , he was permit off the hook quite easily . It ’s easilyone of the bad matter Derek did , and yet it was written off as just a small mistake that was quickly forgive .
Choosing His Career Over Meredith’s
One of the biggest things Derek did that does n’t hold up today was when he promised Meredith he would ill-use back from his work so she could focus more , and then right away went back on his Good Book . " Fear ( Of The Unknown ) , " saw the distich attain break point , as Meredith realized that if she were to move to DC with Derek , she would also be in the darkness of his vocation . Derek decide to last out and live up to his hope , only to pass on a few episodes later .
His ego was one of the things thatmade Derek an overrated character , and this instance prove it . He stress to pressure Meredith to do something ' worthy ' to make him remain in Seattle excuse , and eventually decide to go to DC to act on his vocation anyway . It was a selfish move , and it never made sense for Derek to ask Meredith to exit her home to follow him , or to leave behind Meredith and their small fry , evenif it was a job for the President .
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